Valentines Day Gifts – Avoid Disaster
Posted by: erogenouszone on: February 1, 2010
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Valentines Day is a veritable minefield of potential disasters.
If you’ve been going out just a couple of days or weeks do you get a gift? If you do, do you get something meaningful and sweet which could potentially look too smothering, or something cheeky and sexy which could be interpretted as you’re only in this for sex? How much money do you spend? If one of you spends an obviously greater amount then who feels more stupid, the spender or the spendee?
Equally so if you’re in a long term committed relationship, do you get something romantic to bring the passion back into a perhaps dwindling sex life, or do you go for a fun novelty to have some fun?
The problem is whatever you get could be interpretted wrongly if your relationship isn’t in the right place. If you’re both feeling happy and secure then basically whichever way you’re going with your idea will be a success. A sexy gift will result in sex, a romantic gift will result in an emotion filled smooch of gratitude, and something personal will be appreciated for showing you know them.
However, Valentines Day not only tortures the single, but if you’re in a slightly rocky situation it will shake the cracks into fissures. The sight of all the happy couples, and the sound of the love songs filled with saccarine sentiment and unrealistic scenarios will make you feel like you’re a failure in love, or your partner doesn’t live up to these unrealistic expectations we are forced to believe in.
The best I can say is play it by ear. If you know your partner is passionate about something, be it a music group, a film, a kind of car or whatever, then don’t feel you need to be limited to teddybears with sickly sweet messages destined to be found years later shoved in the back of a cupboard, and get them something they will actually appreciate because it will show them you truly care and truly know them, but add some spice. You’re doing something truly meaningful so throw in some naughty knickers, or a pair of fluffy handcuffs. This will have two effects, it will show that as well as being a caring and understanding partner, you’re still a lustfilled lover waiting for some naked yumyum, and that you can have a laugh. It will stop a new relationship from seeming too serious too soon, and will also stop an old relationship from becoming stagnant.
